Not my Kind of Gay
November 23, 2009
This seems a most fitting post following our latest entry “Does Music Make you Gay.” I try to stay out of this kind of stuff, because really I am more of a politics than pop culture kinda person, but I couldn't resist.
I didn’t watch the AMAs but with all the buzz over Adam Lambert’s performance I had to check it out. What I saw in all honesty disgusted me. Once again my TV screen depicted an oversexed gay man, further reinforcing the stereotype that so many have of the LGBT community.
I am not saying that Lambert should censure himself, but I would ask him to have a little class. You want to kiss a man on stage to make a point, awesome, but there were a few things that I can see hurting rather than helping the cause.
From the video that I was able to find it looked like he rubbed another man’s face in his crotch, and what was with the kiss? First of all it looked as if he was about to swallow the poor keyboardist’s head. Secondly he shared with reporters that it was just something that happened “in the moment.” I don’t think so Adam. The lyrics leading up to the kiss are “can you handle what I'm 'bout to do" and in the follow up interview where he claims it was in the moment he also states that he believes there is a double standard for two men kissing. Agreed, there is a double standard but I think it could have been handled better.
The whole point of this site is to allow everyone to share their version of being gay. If that is Lambert’s version, S&M, face eating etc. fine, but I wish that it had all been done a bit more tastefully. What do you think? Post a comment and let us know how you feel.
Missed the performance? check it out here, and then see his follow up interview.
Reader Comments (1)
As an entertainer youself (and as I was in the past too...maybe still), I feel that it is important to express our feelings through our medium - music, dance, art, etc.. However, if we use our sexuality as a vehicle to accelerate our fame, then we are no better than the people who wish to oppress us. We need to overcome with pride and dignity. Expressions that are debasing and class-less push us generations back.